• #ad In only a few weeks these little legs and feet aren’t going to seem so little anymore. Ben loves babies, so I have a feeling he’s going to love his baby sis. Buuut he really likes cuddling his mama so I don’t know how happy he will be to share me with someone else while Blaire is at school. He’s already nailing it in the big brother department by trying out baby sis’s crib mattress. He already asked to sleep in there tonight! 🤣🤣🤣 And if it makes him sleep through the night then I’m down. This mattress is actually made in Illinois. It’s non-toxic and has no springs. You can use code TRISTACRIB for $35 off your purchase of a crib mattress. There’s a link in my bio to shop. • 
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  • The one who made me a mama. This will be her first full week of kindergarten and every day her favorite part is recess. 🤣 She just keeps talking nonstop about how excited she is to have another baby to snuggle soon because Ben is “too wiggly” to let her hold him anymore. Today she asked me if I was ready to get this baby out or if I was nervous? Then she said not to worry because she will help pack the diaper bag whenever we leave the house, so I feel like that’s a real win/win for me. 🙌🏻 #blairep
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  • 35 weeks and feelin’ it. I’m finally nesting which is great because we have a million things to do still. Including getting this house ready for a “half” birthday party for Blaire and Ben this weekend. We were moving so close to their birthdays this spring that we never had a party and Blaire has kept talking about wanting to have all of her friends over to celebrate. Soooo a half birthday party it is. The bonus is the weather is WAY better than in February and March so we can actually have people hang out outside, have a bonfire and make s’mores. So I’m super excited and I guess it’s a good push for a final deep clean of this house before we welcome our final member in (hopefully) less than 5 weeks! #35weekspregnant #thirdtrimester #happilytrista
  • I hit 34 weeks earlier this week and supposedly this baby is the size of a box of Eggo waffles. 🤣🤣 It feels like fall is here and it’s fabulous. I got to sleep in today while Jason got up with the kids. I showered and got ready for the first time all week and I feel like a new person. 🙌🏻 We have a few parties / plans for this long weekend, but nothing too crazy. How about you?
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  • Look who started preschool today! 😍 He only went for an hour (they split their class in half the first two weeks) but he didn’t cry at drop off, told me all about his snack and the playground and how he got to play with trucks. I am so proud of him! And it’ll be nice to have a few hours each week to just hang out with baby sis. #benjaminp
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  • #ad Sorry baby, when you’re the third child I’m not sure you really get anything just for yourself. This @philipsavent Soothie Snuggle came in the #NewMomBBoxx  from @babbleboxxofficial. Ben immediately claimed it for himself because he is still a binky lover. I shared a bit about each of the products in the box in my most recent blog post.
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  • SO many emotions today on this big girl’s first day of school... for me anyways! She was mostly just excited and just a little nervous. We all made bracelets together last night and we are going to look at them today whenever we miss each other. As she was walking away to her teacher, she ran back to make sure we all had our bracelets on. 😭😭😭
It’s such a weird season of life to go from having her home all day, to a year of pre-k for 3 hours a day / 4 days a week, to kindergarten with her gone 7.5 hours a day. Plus a little brother at home asking to go pick her up and soon to be a baby sis home with me too! Ben and I are counting down the hours until we can pick her up and hear all about her first day. ❤️ #blairep
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  • #ad The only thing better than a husband who likes to cook, and is good at it, too? A husband who likes to cook with your children! I shared our experience with @RaddishKids cooking box on the blog, including a coupon code so you can try it for yourself. •
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  • today was the due date for our baby who we miscarried at Christmas. It’s a hard thing to mourn this day for our baby in heaven, knowing we will have our baby girl here with us in a few months. it makes me feel like I don’t appreciate this rainbow baby, but I do. obviously. being pregnant so quickly after our miscarriage has helped me to cope, but this day was still hard. my anxiety has been high these past few weeks. I’ve been trying to give myself grace, but as moms it can be so hard to make time for ourselves, to prioritize our own health. —
as I sat in the waiting room at my OBGYN yesterday I couldn’t help but think of all the times I’ve sat there, broken-hearted. during my fertility appointments while we were trying for our second baby. during all of the ultrasounds and appointments for my pregnancy in December. seeing people come out with their strips of ultrasound papers. laughing and smiling over their sweet baby. something I had done before without giving a second thought to the fact that other people in the exact same waiting room might be having one of the worst days of their life. I wondered if anyone there was having one of their worst days and prayed for everyone there. —
I’m not sure there’s really any point to this other than to say life is full of good and bad, ups and downs. if you are going through a bad time now, just know you’re not alone. this bad time will pass.
people don’t always share their bad, so can’t we all just treat others the way we want to be treated? be kind. be the reason someone smiles instead of being another reason they frown. •
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  • our ultrasound this weekend confirmed our final little babe is, indeed, a baby girl. I think she looks just like her big brother. If she follows in his footsteps we will meet her in just 6 weeks! so now I’m slightly freaking out about all of the random things we need for her since I’ve basically done 0 prep. 😬 #thirdchildproblems •
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  • snack break #benjaminp | Less than 3 months and we’ll be adding another kiddo to our crew. I have been looking back through baby pictures and am just so dang excited to meet this new baby. I can’t wait to see if they look like either of their siblings... also can’t wait to find out if it’s really a she or a he! 🤪🤣 #benjaminp #happilytrista
August 2, 2019

8 tips to survive breastfeeding

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As a first time mom I had no idea what breastfeeding entail. I didn’t take a class. I bought a nursing tank, a nursing bra and a nursing cover. Boom. I was prepared. I was going to survive breastfeeding.

I was even offended when several mom friends suggested I have a thing of formula at home just in case I needed it. Just in case? Just in case I changed my mind? Just in case I didn’t like nursing my baby? It never crossed my mind that breastfeeding may not be all unicorns and rainbows.

Another thing that surprised me? How HARD breastfeeding can be. It is exhausting. It felt complicated holding a baby with one hand and trying to force a boob into their mouth with the other. Don’t worry, the first few times you try it, someone (a nurse or lactation consultant) will probably be using their hand to force your boob into your baby’s mouth.

I wasn’t prepared! Don’t be like me. I want you to survive breastfeeding. I want you to know what to expect and I want you to give yourself grace. All things I wish I would have done the first time around.

1. Take a class.

With Blaire, I didn’t take a class because everything I had heard about breastfeeding used the words “easy” and “natural”. It truly never crossed my mind I might not know how to hold my baby or how to get her to latch. Before Ben was born, I took a class through the hospital where I would deliver him. It was taught by the lactation consultants I would see in the hospital when he was born. It’s nice to have met someone at least once before they waltz into your room when you’re 30 minutes postpartum and topless. It was also very helpful to learn about breastfeeding while I wasn’t freshly postpartum and holding a crying newborn. The instructors also did a great job at helping to set the expectations I didn’t have as a first time mom. How much time I would probably spend nursing my baby, how much baby would eat and how often they would eat, etc.

2. Talk to friends who have breastfed.

Talking to friends who have been there will help you to set your own expectations. Obviously everyone’s experience with breastfeeding is different, so talking to more than one person is important. For me, one of the hardest things was the stress of my boobs running my life. I had just spend the past 39 weeks sharing my body with a human and was counting down the days until my body was my own again. I couldn’t wait to go more than an hour without having to pee. Well instead of getting up overnight to pee, I was getting up overnight to pump, even when my baby was asleep.

I didn’t give any forethought to whether I’d be comfortable nursing in public (with or without a cover). I didn’t think about the logistics of clothes that would allow me to easily nurse. I didn’t know I would be STARVING all day every night those first few weeks. These are all things your friends can talk you through. In this blog post you can find some of my favorite items that helped me to survive breastfeeding.

3. Take time to yourself.

As a first time mom I obviously had no idea what to expect after Blaire was born. I thought having constant visitors in the hospital and at home was just how it went. Well, let me tell you, having family and friends drop off food, diapers or coffee? Amazing! Having family and friends come over to sit around for hours to talk and hang out? Exhausting.

When you’re nursing or pumping, you might be attached to your baby for 90% of your day that first month. Maybe you’re comfortable nursing in front of your visitors, if so, that’s great! Maybe you want the company and enjoy it.

But for me, that wasn’t the case. Instead of being able to sit comfortably on my couch with my husband, feeding my baby, I was in a bedroom with her or attached to my pump while our visitors hung out in the living room with Jason, and Blaire, if I was pumping. Don’t feel guilty asking for space for your family. You, your partner and your baby are all learning this together, as you go. You should have the freedom to sit topless on your couch eating snacks and watching TV.

4. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Your OBGYN/midwife, baby’s pediatrician and a lactation consultant are all good resources, but they typically have different interests in your breastfeeding journey. My OBGYN cared first and foremost about my mental and physical well-being. Our pediatrician cared most about making sure our babies were gaining weight and the LC really, really wanted to make sure I was successful at breastfeeding. Once I found the one I was most comfortable with, it made asking for help so much easier. Unfortunately, some pain during breastfeeding is common in the beginning. But there are things to help make the pain better and there are times when the pain isn’t normal. Don’t be afraid to reach out if you’re in pain or having issues. You can also reach out to La Leche League, there may even be local support groups in your area.

5. There’s an app for that.

Tracking how much a bottle-fed baby has eaten is easy, it’s right there on the bottle. Tracking how much a breastfed baby has eaten is done differently. Our hospital gave us a piece of paper and we had to track 1) Every time baby nursed, for how long and which side. 2) Every time we changed a diaper, whether it was wet or dirty. I kept tracking at home, but switched to an app instead of a paper and pen. At each well visit, we were asked how much/how often she was eating and being able to easily access that in my phone was perfect. Baby Tracker and Baby Breastfeeding Tracker are two good ones.

6. Set up a comfy breastfeeding spot (or two).

Breastfeeding is going to feel like it’s your full time job for the next month or so. I imagined I’d just spend all of my time in the nursery, in the glider… then I realized just how much time I would spend feeding a newborn. Instead I set up shop on our couch. Things to have available within arms reach? Snacks (oatmeal is said to help bump up your milk supply), water (staying hydrated is crucial to producing milk), a phone charger, your TV remotes, and a nursing pillow.

7. Consider a suction breast pump.

When it’s time to venture away from your baby, you’ll either need to do it between feedings or you’ll need to have milk stored up for baby to take a bottle. A silicone breast pump uses suction to catch the milk from your letdown. If you’re not using a silicone pump, this milk typically just soaks into your nursing pad. You’d be surprised at how much you can collect at each feeding without having to actually “pump”! I used this one with Ben.

8. Supplementing with formula does not make you a bad mom or a failure.

If your baby is not gaining weight appropriately or hitting their milestones, their pediatrician may suggest formula. If you’re making yourself crazy over upping your supply, power pumping, etc. your own health care provider may suggest formula. Not producing enough milk to exclusively breastfeed your baby does not make you a failure or a bad mom! If you find yourself struggling with guilt over formula-feeding, read this.

Consider adding a probiotic to your breastfed baby’s diet.

Until Ben was born, I had never heard of adding a probiotic to your breastfed baby’s diet. I had no idea 97% of babies are missing the (good!) bacteria B. infantis. Without it, there are ingredients in breast milk your baby cannot digest. Evivo contains this active strain of good bacteria, which means the nutrients in your breast milk are fully utilized to protect your baby from the harmful bacteria linked to a higher risk of eczema, allergies, diabetes, and obesity.

The best part of Evivo? You only need 3-5ml of breast milk for each serving of probiotic, so just once per day. You add your 3-5ml of breastmilk into the provided dish, add in the little packet of probiotic and then mix it together in the dish. It comes with a 5ml dropper, so you just suck it up into the dropped and feed it to your baby. Using such a small portion of breast milk means you don’t necessarily need to resort to pumping to have enough of a breast milk serving for the probiotic.

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Mamas who have breastfed before, what tips do you have to survive breastfeeding?

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    • ice cream outside with two of my favorite people. when it’s only 70° outside you can actually eat your ice cream without it melting all over us... and by us I mean them. 👆🏻👆🏻 #blaireandben
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    • Prepping for our third baby has been pretty easy so far. I guess when you have an older sister and brother, plus a mama who likes to hold on to everything from her babies, there isn’t a ton of shopping to do. The kids are having fun picking out little gifts to give baby sister in the hospital (something Blaire still talks about from when Ben was born), little toys here and there, PJs, and this @babyeinstein 4-in-1 Kickin Tunes Music & Language Discovery Gym at @target. I wasn’t joking when I said they wanted to test it out! #babyeinstein #ignitecuriosity #socialspotters #blaireandben #happilytrista
    • #ad I can’t believe this girl is heading off to kindergarten! With afternoon pre-k last year, we were lucky to not have to worry about the morning rush. So this year, our go-to is a waffle and a chocolate milk for the ride to school. Horizon® Shelf Stable Chocolate Milk is our favorite since we can easily grab it and go! Spoiler alert: she takes one in her lunch, too. Blaire is so excited, but little brother and I are sad to see her spend so much time away from us. But I am excited to be able to walk her to school and avoid the CRAZY drop-off and pick-up lines while the weather’s still nice, anyways. 
You can find @HorizonOrganic Chocolate Milk at @KrogerCo and you can even save $1 with this digital coupon (7/24/19 – 8/6/19). And you can stock up because Horizon Organic milk boxes are shelf-stable, meaning you can safely store them in the pantry. Shop now through the link in my bio. #blaireandben
    • Well we don’t have a Nordstrom near us, but we do have an Aldi. Most of their summer items are on clearance and we scored this sweet pool for $7. Winner, winner. 🦄☀️ #blaireandben
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    • This summer hasn’t really felt like summer yet. 🤨 So when we have an 85° day we make the most out of it with a trip to the pool! How’d you spend your Sunday Funday? #blaireandben
    • another day, another doctors appointment for someone in our crew. today it’s Ben. he was up overnight saying his ear hurt — a double ear infection for him. luckily the kid loves taking medicine and hasn’t let his ears get him down! as long as he’s up moving around they’re fine, but the second he lays down... 😭😭😭. hoping our poor buddy is feeling better tomorrow. do you feel like you need a frequent flier card for your pediatrician? just me? okay. #blaireandben #itsfinewerefine
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    • When your brother is getting big but you still want to hold him... you gotta pinch his butt because he’s so wiggly. 😂😬😍 #blaireandben •
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    • It is definitely bittersweet to leave the house where we brought both of these babies home. But we are excited for our next chapter as a family of five! #rainbowbaby #blaireandben
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    • Last night was our first night in the new house. 👏🏻 We still have lots of stuff to bring from the old house and then lots of cleaning over there before the final walk through and closing next Monday. Then we can focus on getting this house unpacked and organized. But first, I would like a nap. 😴 #blaireandben #happilytristahome
    • The snow that never ends. 🙄🥶 Walked out into the snow this afternoon and one kid loved it, the other not so much. “Wowwww! It’s like a wizard out here.” —Blaire 😂
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    • Sibling love: hugging 5% of the time, wrestling 95% of the time. Another day... another target trip. And in PJs because it’s so cold and, well, if you’re still in PJs at 4pm, what’s the point of changing? #tristalovestarget #blaireandben
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