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She is still waking up once over night most nights. She just started smiling at us these past few days. She loves tummy time but rolls herself over all of the time so we have to roll her back. She loves to be worn and snuggled. And we have to restrain her brother from kissing her 193739 times per day. 🤪 #happilytrista #newborn #sixweeksold #fourthtrimester
  • Yesterday was almost 60° and today it “feels like” 21°. We had a handful of fall days and it’s not fair because I’m not ready to skip right to winter. There’s nothing better to get us all out of the house than a walk, especially because wearing Sloane puts her right to sleep. Anywho, trying to squeeze in a nap before we get Blaire from school because once we get home it’ll be a mad dash for me to shower and get everyone ready for Blaire’s first kindergarten parent/teacher conference. AND it’s book fair at her school. Who still gets excited for the book fair? 🤭🙋🏼‍♀️ #happilytrista
  • someone changed out of their pajamas today. it wasn’t me.
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  • daylight savings vibes... casually pouring coffee in my eyes today. what time were your kiddos awake? 
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  • Sorry if this made you yawn. 🤭 I just love that Sloane feels the sleep dust when I’m wearing her, just like Benny did! 💕 Hope you’re having a weekend as great as this girl. She is one month old today! Still waking just at 1:30am most nights to eat... occasionally around 5am, too. When she’s awake she likes to look at lights and stare at mama. Whenever she does tummy time she rolls right over to her back. 🥰 #happilytrista
  • Tried some Pinterest-y nail art while the two older kids were at school this morning... and I’m ready to remove and do something a little less crazy when they’re all in bed tonight. 🤪 Real wild Friday night plans, am I right?
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  • Sloane’s first Halloween... the one where it snowed 3 inches and was 20° outside. Woody and Jessie lasted about 30 mins trick-or-treating, then they wanted to head home to hand out candy. What was the weather like where you live? And how many pieces of candy do people give out where you trick-or-treat? Here, it’s a tie between “choose two pieces” and “grab a handful.” #blairebenandsloane #halloween #halloween2019 #happilytrista
  • ...when your mom takes too long in @target. Realized when we got out to the car that his binky was lost somewhere in the store. 20 mins into bedtime tonight I FINALLY found one in a diaper bag. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 #tristalovestarget #happilytrista #terribletwos
  • Today turned out to be the most beautiful day and we spent it at the zoo for “Boo at the Zoo”. Soaking it up while we can since Thursday is calling for snow. Think our kids will be fine with staying in to hand out candy? 😂😂 #thepetersoncrew #happilytrista
  • crib naps and sweet dreams 💤 #threeweeksold #happilytrista
  • As soon as dad walks through the door, everyone is fighting over him... and that means alone time for me! 🙌🏻 Jason loves being a dad and I love that @pampersus has stepped up to make things easier for dads by committing to install 5,000 changing tables in public restrooms across the U.S. and Canada by the year 2021. These changing tables will make such a positive impact in each community! I am talking more about it in my stories. #LoveTheChange #PampersPartner
July 2, 2018

co-sleeping saved me

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bed-sharingThe title of this post may be a bit dramatic to some, but hear me out.

I know I can’t be alone when I say motherhood has been so much different than I ever imagined. For some reason I thought I knew exactly what kind of mom I’d be. All the things I would do and wouldn’t do. And let me just say, in my mind, I had it together much more than I do in real life. I thought I’d have so many friends in the same stage of life as me (I do!), I thought they’d live close by (they didn’t!). 

I never realized how overwhelmed I would be as a mom. Whether I was working in an office full time, working from home full time or working from home part time, they’re each a different type of overwhelmed. 

For me, we co-slept (your child sleeps in your room) from the beginning. I started bed-sharing with Blaire when she was around 6 weeks old. She was a Frank Breech baby, which resulted in one of her hips not fusing correctly. So she had to wear a Pavlic harness, starting at 6 weeks old, 23 hours a day, for 8 weeks. She couldn’t be swaddled and she only slept well if I was holding her. Once we started bed-sharing, I realized how much easier it was to feed her over night. Before this, I had been exclusively pumping. I would wake up overnight twice to pump and would make her a bottle each time. I was suddenly getting wayyy more sleep than I had since she had been born and it was freaking magical. 

Going back to work the day Blaire turned 12 weeks old was one of the hardest days of my life. It was a Tuesday and every Tuesday since the day she was born I would remind myself the day I would have to leave her with someone else for 11 hours a day (Monday through Friday) was coming. So, while Blaire was done wearing her harness at 12 weeks old, we kept bed-sharing. After 6 weeks of it she had gotten used to sleeping next to me. And it honestly was something I looked forward to every night. I missed her so much while I was at work. Snuggling her was quality time for my mama heart and I’d be lying if I didn’t say I still love it. 

I have been open with my anxiety battles. Having Blaire in our room, whether it was sleeping next to me in bed or sleeping in her pack and play, was the only way I could calm my mind. We finally moved Blaire into her crib in her own room when she was 11 months old. She still likes to sneak in our bed around 4AM every night and we don’t mind it one bit. Both of us love that chance to snuggle her. 

I thought maybe I’d be better about moving Ben to his own room sooner, but I wasn’t. We moved him around 13 months. He still wakes up around 3:30AM and comes into our room. Sometimes he goes into his pack and play and sometimes he comes straight into our bed.

Honestly there is nothing more comforting to me than laying in bed, in the dark, knowing my entire family is safe and sound in our comfy bed. Listening to the breathing of the three people I love most in this world is so comforting to me. These moments are the times I sleep the best. They are the time my mind is calm and when I feel safe. 

Co-sleeping saved me. It saved my sanity. It saved me from the mom guilt I had when I was working. It saved me from my anxiety. It saved me from nights of laying away for hours staring at the baby monitor. It saved me. Mentally and physically. 

If you are co-sleeping or bed-sharing, you aren’t failing. Even if you told yourself you never would, you are allowed to change your mind! You deserve sleep. You deserve to feel safe. You deserve to do what feels right for you. 

Cosleeping Saved Me

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    Courtney
    December 18, 2018 at 11:30 pm

    this post ❤️ It makes my mama heart happy!

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      Trista
      December 31, 2018 at 8:46 am

      Thank you so much for reading! <3

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  • How many kids do you have? Which transition was the hardest? It may not be the traditional answer, but for me, becoming a mama to one was the hardest. I had NO CLUE what I was in for.
The mom guilt.
How long it would take to leave the house.
The sleepless nights.
Breastfeeding.
Losing myself in motherhood — feeling like I had to be with Blaire 24/7.
Adding Ben and now Sloane to our crew has been so much easier for me. It’s like they just fall in line with the crazy. 🤪 And I think being so much more confident in myself as a mom doesn’t hurt either. 💁🏼‍♀️ #motherhoodishard
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