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  • #ad In only a few weeks these little legs and feet aren’t going to seem so little anymore. Ben loves babies, so I have a feeling he’s going to love his baby sis. Buuut he really likes cuddling his mama so I don’t know how happy he will be to share me with someone else while Blaire is at school. He’s already nailing it in the big brother department by trying out baby sis’s crib mattress. He already asked to sleep in there tonight! 🤣🤣🤣 And if it makes him sleep through the night then I’m down. This mattress is actually made in Illinois. It’s non-toxic and has no springs. You can use code TRISTACRIB for $35 off your purchase of a crib mattress. There’s a link in my bio to shop. • 
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  • The one who made me a mama. This will be her first full week of kindergarten and every day her favorite part is recess. 🤣 She just keeps talking nonstop about how excited she is to have another baby to snuggle soon because Ben is “too wiggly” to let her hold him anymore. Today she asked me if I was ready to get this baby out or if I was nervous? Then she said not to worry because she will help pack the diaper bag whenever we leave the house, so I feel like that’s a real win/win for me. 🙌🏻 #blairep
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  • 35 weeks and feelin’ it. I’m finally nesting which is great because we have a million things to do still. Including getting this house ready for a “half” birthday party for Blaire and Ben this weekend. We were moving so close to their birthdays this spring that we never had a party and Blaire has kept talking about wanting to have all of her friends over to celebrate. Soooo a half birthday party it is. The bonus is the weather is WAY better than in February and March so we can actually have people hang out outside, have a bonfire and make s’mores. So I’m super excited and I guess it’s a good push for a final deep clean of this house before we welcome our final member in (hopefully) less than 5 weeks! #35weekspregnant #thirdtrimester #happilytrista
  • I hit 34 weeks earlier this week and supposedly this baby is the size of a box of Eggo waffles. 🤣🤣 It feels like fall is here and it’s fabulous. I got to sleep in today while Jason got up with the kids. I showered and got ready for the first time all week and I feel like a new person. 🙌🏻 We have a few parties / plans for this long weekend, but nothing too crazy. How about you?
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  • Look who started preschool today! 😍 He only went for an hour (they split their class in half the first two weeks) but he didn’t cry at drop off, told me all about his snack and the playground and how he got to play with trucks. I am so proud of him! And it’ll be nice to have a few hours each week to just hang out with baby sis. #benjaminp
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  • #ad Sorry baby, when you’re the third child I’m not sure you really get anything just for yourself. This @philipsavent Soothie Snuggle came in the #NewMomBBoxx  from @babbleboxxofficial. Ben immediately claimed it for himself because he is still a binky lover. I shared a bit about each of the products in the box in my most recent blog post.
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  • SO many emotions today on this big girl’s first day of school... for me anyways! She was mostly just excited and just a little nervous. We all made bracelets together last night and we are going to look at them today whenever we miss each other. As she was walking away to her teacher, she ran back to make sure we all had our bracelets on. 😭😭😭
It’s such a weird season of life to go from having her home all day, to a year of pre-k for 3 hours a day / 4 days a week, to kindergarten with her gone 7.5 hours a day. Plus a little brother at home asking to go pick her up and soon to be a baby sis home with me too! Ben and I are counting down the hours until we can pick her up and hear all about her first day. ❤️ #blairep
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  • #ad The only thing better than a husband who likes to cook, and is good at it, too? A husband who likes to cook with your children! I shared our experience with @RaddishKids cooking box on the blog, including a coupon code so you can try it for yourself. •
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  • today was the due date for our baby who we miscarried at Christmas. It’s a hard thing to mourn this day for our baby in heaven, knowing we will have our baby girl here with us in a few months. it makes me feel like I don’t appreciate this rainbow baby, but I do. obviously. being pregnant so quickly after our miscarriage has helped me to cope, but this day was still hard. my anxiety has been high these past few weeks. I’ve been trying to give myself grace, but as moms it can be so hard to make time for ourselves, to prioritize our own health. —
as I sat in the waiting room at my OBGYN yesterday I couldn’t help but think of all the times I’ve sat there, broken-hearted. during my fertility appointments while we were trying for our second baby. during all of the ultrasounds and appointments for my pregnancy in December. seeing people come out with their strips of ultrasound papers. laughing and smiling over their sweet baby. something I had done before without giving a second thought to the fact that other people in the exact same waiting room might be having one of the worst days of their life. I wondered if anyone there was having one of their worst days and prayed for everyone there. —
I’m not sure there’s really any point to this other than to say life is full of good and bad, ups and downs. if you are going through a bad time now, just know you’re not alone. this bad time will pass.
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  • our ultrasound this weekend confirmed our final little babe is, indeed, a baby girl. I think she looks just like her big brother. If she follows in his footsteps we will meet her in just 6 weeks! so now I’m slightly freaking out about all of the random things we need for her since I’ve basically done 0 prep. 😬 #thirdchildproblems •
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  • snack break #benjaminp | Less than 3 months and we’ll be adding another kiddo to our crew. I have been looking back through baby pictures and am just so dang excited to meet this new baby. I can’t wait to see if they look like either of their siblings... also can’t wait to find out if it’s really a she or a he! 🤪🤣 #benjaminp #happilytrista
June 8, 2018

what it’s like to be a mom with generalized anxiety disorder

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Trista Peterson June 2018Constant worrying.

Obsessing over a sad story on the news… so much so that it keeps you awake until 4am. 

Feeling too nervous to ask for help… thinking if someone else helps care for your baby or child, something bad will happen to them. 

Cosleeping because you’re too worried about your children’s safety to let them sleep in a different room. 

Avoiding busy public places because you’re scared something bad might happen. 

Feeling too overwhelmed and exhausted to function.

Feeling so stressed out and nervous that you find yourself yelling and losing your temper over the smallest of things.

My entire life I’ve dealt with anxiety. It’s gotten progressively worse as I’ve gotten older. The thing is, I never realized I had anxiety. Sure, I thought I was a worrier. But that’s where it stopped. I simply thought there were people who worried about things and the people in their lives and there are people who don’t. I was just one of the unlucky ones who worried. A lot.

I’ll never forget the first time I heard of “Generalized Anxiety Disorder” (GAD). I was reading an article about Kristen Bell’s battle with anxiety on ScaryMommy.com. It explained that Bell battles with GAD and it explained what GAD is. When I read their definition, something inside me clicked.

The article said, Generalized anxiety disorder is the persistent and unrealistic worry about everyday things. So even though there isn’t a reason to worry, the excessive feelings still show up.

I finally felt like I knew what was “wrong” with me. I have anxiety. Identifying the problem made me feel a bit better. But I was too nervous to seek treatment for my anxiety. I thought knowing what I was up against was the battle. I thought I’d be able to fight it on my own.

But as the months passed it would get worse and worse. I would lay awake for hours upon hours every night.

Terrified that every sound I heard was someone inside our house. At first I was so scared I would wake Jason… but then he would offer to get up and walk through the house. And to me, it was SO real to me that someone was in our home that I absolutely couldn’t let him leave our locked room.

Replaying every scary thing I heard on the news that day… every sad post I saw on Facebook.

I was exhausted. But then after a few months of rough days, it would get better. The constant worries in my brain would slow down. I would get more sleep. I was able to more easily let go of things that normally worried me.

After Ben was born, it got worse and worse. Still, I did nothing. I was worried medication would make me feel different. Make me feel “not myself.” I was worried I couldn’t nurse while on medication. I was too nervous to even say “yes” when the nurse asked me at my postpartum visit if I was experiencing any anxiety.

Months went by and my anxiety only continued to get worse. Then, one day, my friend Jen shared her battle with anxiety in a blog post. She shared that she had started medication and it had changed her life. I messaged her to thank her for sharing her story because it changed my view on seeking treatment and the thought of taking daily medication for anxiety. I just didn’t understand how medicine could make me “worry” less. I didn’t realize it could change my life. And hearing Jen say it had changed her life, I called my doctor that day and scheduled an appointment.

I started with counseling and an as-needed medication. In my first counseling appointment, she identified my issues and officially diagnosed me with GAD and called out the way I was using OCD to help myself cope with them. After a month of counseling, I began the daily medication. I still see a counselor and am learning techniques to cope with my anxiety and the obsessive compulsive tendencies I have developed.

The medicine hasn’t changed “me.” The simplest way I can explain the effect of my medication is that it allows me to differentiate between rational and irrational thoughts. Not only that, it helps me to talk myself down from the irrational fears, most of the time. The anxiety isn’t completely gone and it never will be. But I am able to sleep at night again. I no longer feel irritable, exhausted and frustrated (most of the time). I do still have bad days. Days when my worries take over my brain. Days when I feel down or on edge. But I remind myself to take it one day at a time. That’s all anyone can do.

While I have come so far in the past five months, I know I definitely have work to do. I still have some irrational fears I am not able to talk myself through.

Letting someone else drive my children somewhere for fear of them being in a car accident.

Ben sleeping in his own room.

Shootings in crowded buildings, such as the movie theatre, the mall and concerts.

If you are feeling this way, I want you to know you’re not alone. There is treatment out there to help you live your life. You don’t have to spend your life in a haze of worry and fear. You deserve to make your health and well-being a priority. You deserve to get help. You deserve to talk with someone who “gets” it and can help you treat it.

I am such an open book when it comes to anxiety and my struggle. I decided to get help because of a blog post I read. So I want to speak about my experiences and about this mental illness that is a part of me. Please, please don’t hesitate to reach out to me however you feel comfortable. Comments, DMs or emails. I am here for you and would love to answer any questions you may have or just to be a (digital) shoulder for you to cry on and ear to listen to you. 

You are not alone.

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    • ice cream outside with two of my favorite people. when it’s only 70° outside you can actually eat your ice cream without it melting all over us... and by us I mean them. 👆🏻👆🏻 #blaireandben
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    • Prepping for our third baby has been pretty easy so far. I guess when you have an older sister and brother, plus a mama who likes to hold on to everything from her babies, there isn’t a ton of shopping to do. The kids are having fun picking out little gifts to give baby sister in the hospital (something Blaire still talks about from when Ben was born), little toys here and there, PJs, and this @babyeinstein 4-in-1 Kickin Tunes Music & Language Discovery Gym at @target. I wasn’t joking when I said they wanted to test it out! #babyeinstein #ignitecuriosity #socialspotters #blaireandben #happilytrista
    • #ad I can’t believe this girl is heading off to kindergarten! With afternoon pre-k last year, we were lucky to not have to worry about the morning rush. So this year, our go-to is a waffle and a chocolate milk for the ride to school. Horizon® Shelf Stable Chocolate Milk is our favorite since we can easily grab it and go! Spoiler alert: she takes one in her lunch, too. Blaire is so excited, but little brother and I are sad to see her spend so much time away from us. But I am excited to be able to walk her to school and avoid the CRAZY drop-off and pick-up lines while the weather’s still nice, anyways. 
You can find @HorizonOrganic Chocolate Milk at @KrogerCo and you can even save $1 with this digital coupon (7/24/19 – 8/6/19). And you can stock up because Horizon Organic milk boxes are shelf-stable, meaning you can safely store them in the pantry. Shop now through the link in my bio. #blaireandben
    • Well we don’t have a Nordstrom near us, but we do have an Aldi. Most of their summer items are on clearance and we scored this sweet pool for $7. Winner, winner. 🦄☀️ #blaireandben
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    • This summer hasn’t really felt like summer yet. 🤨 So when we have an 85° day we make the most out of it with a trip to the pool! How’d you spend your Sunday Funday? #blaireandben
    • another day, another doctors appointment for someone in our crew. today it’s Ben. he was up overnight saying his ear hurt — a double ear infection for him. luckily the kid loves taking medicine and hasn’t let his ears get him down! as long as he’s up moving around they’re fine, but the second he lays down... 😭😭😭. hoping our poor buddy is feeling better tomorrow. do you feel like you need a frequent flier card for your pediatrician? just me? okay. #blaireandben #itsfinewerefine
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    • It is definitely bittersweet to leave the house where we brought both of these babies home. But we are excited for our next chapter as a family of five! #rainbowbaby #blaireandben
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    • Last night was our first night in the new house. 👏🏻 We still have lots of stuff to bring from the old house and then lots of cleaning over there before the final walk through and closing next Monday. Then we can focus on getting this house unpacked and organized. But first, I would like a nap. 😴 #blaireandben #happilytristahome
    • The snow that never ends. 🙄🥶 Walked out into the snow this afternoon and one kid loved it, the other not so much. “Wowwww! It’s like a wizard out here.” —Blaire 😂
“Yuck!” —Ben #blaireandben
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    • Sibling love: hugging 5% of the time, wrestling 95% of the time. Another day... another target trip. And in PJs because it’s so cold and, well, if you’re still in PJs at 4pm, what’s the point of changing? #tristalovestarget #blaireandben
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