• traded in the root beer float for a sno cone tonight... jk might still have a root beer float once the kids are asleep. 🤪 what better way to celebrate the end of the golf tournament that lasted 3 days but aged me 33 years?! •
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  • today was the due date for our baby who we miscarried at Christmas. It’s a hard thing to mourn this day for our baby in heaven, knowing we will have our baby girl here with us in a few months. it makes me feel like I don’t appreciate this rainbow baby, but I do. obviously. being pregnant so quickly after our miscarriage has helped me to cope, but this day was still hard. my anxiety has been high these past few weeks. I’ve been trying to give myself grace, but as moms it can be so hard to make time for ourselves, to prioritize our own health. —
as I sat in the waiting room at my OBGYN yesterday I couldn’t help but think of all the times I’ve sat there, broken-hearted. during my fertility appointments while we were trying for our second baby. during all of the ultrasounds and appointments for my pregnancy in December. seeing people come out with their strips of ultrasound papers. laughing and smiling over their sweet baby. something I had done before without giving a second thought to the fact that other people in the exact same waiting room might be having one of the worst days of their life. I wondered if anyone there was having one of their worst days and prayed for everyone there. —
I’m not sure there’s really any point to this other than to say life is full of good and bad, ups and downs. if you are going through a bad time now, just know you’re not alone. this bad time will pass.
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people don’t always share their bad, so can’t we all just treat others the way we want to be treated? be kind. be the reason someone smiles instead of being another reason they frown. •
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  • ice cream outside with two of my favorite people. when it’s only 70° outside you can actually eat your ice cream without it melting all over us... and by us I mean them. 👆🏻👆🏻 #blaireandben
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  • It makes such a difference to my mental health when I prioritize some “me time” in my schedule. Instead of rushing around cleaning up toys or folding laundry during nap/rest time, I’ve been sneaking outside to read a few chapters in my book and relax in the sunshine. The weather has been perfect these past few weeks! [#ad] These mini @kindsnacks nacks bars are the perfect size and they’re only 100 calories… which means I don’t have to feel guilty when I grab both a Caramel Almond Mini AND a Dark Chocolate Nuts & Sea Salt for my snack. 😜#KINDcollective #bekindtoyourself #backtoschool
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  • our ultrasound this weekend confirmed our final little babe is, indeed, a baby girl. I think she looks just like her big brother. If she follows in his footsteps we will meet her in just 6 weeks! so now I’m slightly freaking out about all of the random things we need for her since I’ve basically done 0 prep. 😬 #thirdchildproblems •
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  • Enjoying one last long weekend road trip before Blaire starts school in a few weeks. I spent the day shopping and ended it with an XL root beer float 😂... the perfect day! We are heading to Omaha tomorrow where I just might have booked an ultrasound to check on this baby. 😬 I’m so excited!
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  • we have been to the pool every day this week! our house may have toys covering every surface and the laundry is piled up (both the clean AND dirty laundry). But both kids have gone right to sleep each night and I’ve ended the night with a root beer float, you know as my reward for being so cool and hanging at the pool all afternoon. 🤣
  • snack break #benjaminp | Less than 3 months and we’ll be adding another kiddo to our crew. I have been looking back through baby pictures and am just so dang excited to meet this new baby. I can’t wait to see if they look like either of their siblings... also can’t wait to find out if it’s really a she or a he! 🤪🤣
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  • My little daredevil. I can’t believe he’s going to be a big brother in just a few months! #benjaminp
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  • Prepping for our third baby has been pretty easy so far. I guess when you have an older sister and brother, plus a mama who likes to hold on to everything from her babies, there isn’t a ton of shopping to do. The kids are having fun picking out little gifts to give baby sister in the hospital (something Blaire still talks about from when Ben was born), little toys here and there, PJs, and this @babyeinstein 4-in-1 Kickin Tunes Music & Language Discovery Gym at @target. I wasn’t joking when I said they wanted to test it out! #babyeinstein #ignitecuriosity #socialspotters
November 27, 2017

9 things I didn’t know until I started breastfeeding

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Okay, so I’ve admitted before I thought breastfeeding would be so easy and natural. I didn’t take a class while I was pregnant with Blaire. Didn’t prep, didn’t do any research. If it was so natural, everything would just work and it’d be just as easy as everyone said it was. Well, that was not exactly the case.

There were so many things I didn’t know with Blaire and a few things I didn’t even hear during my class before Ben was born. I guess some things people just forget to mention (or maybe they intentionally leave them out?!) As my own second breastfeeding journey is winding down, I figured I’d share them with you. Maybe they’ll help you or something you know. 

1| It’s hard.
Even if you take the classes, read the books, AND watch the videos. It’s hard. It’s foreign and you’ve never done it before. And that’s okay. You may be one of the lucky unicorns with a baby that easily latches, a supply that’s always perfect, and a baby who never cluster feeds, but you might not be. And that’s normal. 

2| Your milk doesn’t come in for a few days.
With Blaire, my milk didn’t come in for about 5 days. With Ben, it was closer to three. Do NOT let anyone freak you out about the amount your baby is eating. If your baby seems content, then please know they are okay. If your baby is unhappy (aka hungry, sleep, or needing change) they’ll let you know! They’re stomachs are so tiny for those first few weeks. It starts off the size of a cherry that first day and progresses to the size of a large egg around two weeks. So just know they don’t need much to feel full. 

3| You’re going to leak and your nipples will hurt.
The first time around I think mine were sore for well over a month. Seriously, the worst pain. And I leaked for months! Especially if she went too long without eating overnight. The second time, I’d say they really only hurt for a week or so. And I rarely leaked – but I still did occasionally. And guess what, the time you leave home without the breast pads will probably be the time you hear a random baby cry and randomly let down in middle of a store (or at work, real cool.). So, stock up on both breast pads and nipple cream and don’t look back. 

4| Your milk can look different from day to day.
I had NO idea how amazing breastmilk truly is. Yes, I had heard breast is beast, which is why I wanted to try in the first place. (Also, see prices of formula.) But a google search will give you SO MUCH information on the amazing ways your breast milk changes. If you’re sick, your milk knows to give extra antibodies to your baby so he/she hopefully doesn’t get it. If they’re sick, your breast can tell from their saliva (if you are physically nursing and not pumping) and will know to give them extra antibodies then, too. Some days your milk with have more fore milk, which is the fattier part of the milk, and other days it will have more hindmilk. It can even be different colors! 

5| If you’re returning to work after your maternity leave, your pump will be your mortal enemy new BFF.
Ugh, love it or not, your pump will be your best buddy when you have to leave for your baby for more than 3-4 hours at a time. Make sure you learn the best way to use it, since they aren’t always straightforward. And you’ll want to make sure you’re using it properly so you express the most milk possible. And, if you’re not getting much when you’re pumping – don’t worry. Many women don’t respond well to a pump because they are much less efficient than your baby’s mouth. Just stick to a schedule while you’re at work (looking at a baby can help you to have multiple let-downs to get more milk!) and nurse that baby as soon as you get them home from daycare. Or, most reserve a room for nursing mothers – so depending on your commute, it may make sense to nurse them there before you head for home.

6| To be successful, you’ll have to stick to a schedule.
I think it’s different depending on which baby it is. With Blaire, I was a first time mom. Having someone who needed me literally 24/7 was so foreign to me. So having to either be with Blaire when she needed to eat or having to be on a pumping schedule when we were away from each other (on parents-only overnight trips, at work, weddings/receptions where you’re away for more than 4 hours, etc.) and that was something I had never dealt with. Sure, you can try to skip a pumping session, but if you aren’t pumping to make up for the time baby would be eating, then your supply may drop. And you’ll probably end up with sore boobs! With Ben, the whole “being needed 24/7 wasn’t new” but wrangling a toddler and a newborn at the same time was new. Blaire always seemed to need me when I sat down to nurse.

7| Babies can be sensitive or allergic to certain foods you eat.
With Blaire, it seemed like she spit up a lot more whenever I ate anything spicy, so I had to steer clear while she was still nursing. Some babies are sensitive/allergic to caffeine, dairy. So continuing to breastfeed if your baby has a sensitivity or allergy can mean changing your lifestyle.

8| Clusterfeeding.
Chances are you’ve never even heard this word before if you haven’t started preparing beforehand. I had not heard it. Typically babies clusterfeed during growth spurts. They can want to eat every 10 minutes for hours at a time. This is their way of signaling your body to make more milk. And it can be exhausting because 1, you’re awake feeding your baby, & 2, your body is using so much energy to make that precious baby more milk!

9| Not everyone has the same number of working milk ducts. (also #lazyboob)
Okay, so I had definitely never heard of a lazy boob before. It’s one boob that makes less milk than the other. And in my case, on was SERIOUSLY lazy. With Blaire it typically made about half. With Ben, it typically made 1-2 oz at a time. (Boooo) which means they can be vastly different in size, especially when you’re engorged. This can be because everyone has a different number of working milk ducts, which can vary from breast to breast. 

Hanging out at Home  Hanging out at Home   Hanging out at Home   Hanging out at Home Hanging out at Home Hanging out at Home Hanging out at HomeAt the hospital, you should get to see a Lactation Consultant, who will hopefully give you their contact information so you can get in contact with them with ANY questions or concerns. Yes, you can call your OBGYN or ask your child’s pediatrician, but they will be nowhere near as knowledgable. They can help with any breastfeeding issues, even if they involve your pump. They can even help make sure your parts are the proper size, which will help you express the more milk. 

Mamas who have breastfed before, did you know these things before your little one was born? Mamas-to-be, which one of these things is the craziest to you?

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