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  • cheers to the end of a long weekend that left every room of our house messy, the laundry over-flowing and lots of dishes in the sink. everyone is healthy-ish and I am just so happy and thankful. ❤️ and also hoping I can get some things back in order today. 🤪 #happilytrista
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  • I wore makeup and did my hair the other day. may as well document it. 🥳 I am going to share a few things about me, because I’m usually always sharing about my kids.
1. I am so awkward in person that I often pretend not to see someone I know. I hate small talk and I just always say something weird. I also always leave the weirdest, most awkward voicemails. 🤷🏼‍♀️
2. I lived in Illinois my whole life, until I moved to Arizona for college (University of Arizona!). After graduation I moved back in with my parents, where I lived until the day I married Jason... and probably technically until we got back from our honeymoon a week later.
3. My favorite thing to do for myself is seeing my chiropractor for an adjustment, followed up by a massage. Relaxing AND covered by insurance. 🤣
4. I have suffered from generalized anxiety disorder for as long as I can remember. But only after Ben was born did I finally speak to a professional about it. Treating it has made my life so much better.
5. I am allergic to green foods. Green apples, grapes, pickles, etc. But not in a life threatening way. Just in a “one side of my face turns red” way. Like you could draw a line down the middle of my face. It’s so strange.
Okay, I’m awkward and strange and whatever. Share something about yourself below. 🤞🏻 #happilytrista
  • shared a similar picture of Ben in my stories yesterday and just had to document here too. his love for Toy Story is the cutest thing... right down to his slippers. Last night Jason and I were saying how much we’d love to see his reaction to meeting the characters in real life... why is WDW so far away?! what characters are your little ones in to? #happilytrista
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  • ...my days this past week. ear infections, pink eye, runny noses, coughs and congestion... 😶 LYSOL WIPING EVERYTHING when I’m not holding this baby. 😬 #happilytrista
  • If you've never thought of giving your baby a #probiotic you're not alone. @HappilyTrista didn't start using probiotics until Baby #2 came alone, but the difference she's noticed is enough to make her a believer! #repost ・・・
#evivopartner With all of the hard work that goes into breastfeeding, I want to make sure Sloane is digesting all of the amazing proteins found in breastmilk. Today, I’m sharing a blog post talking about the benefits of using @evivohealth infant probiotic- the first six months of a baby’s life is the best time to use one because they’re developing their metabolism and immune system.  #MyEvivoStory #EvivoXL2 #happilytrista
February 21, 2017

Tips for Transitioning Your Toddler to a New Daycare

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Let me just start off by saying, transitioning to a new daycare was really hard. Although, I’m not sure which was harder. The actual process of transitioning Blaire to her new school or having to tell her current daycare that we were moving her.

Blaire attended the same in-home daycare from the time she was 12 weeks old, up until three months before her third birthday. She LOVED her. We loved her! We never had any problems and really our only push for moving Blaire was that we wanted her to be in a more structured, preschool-like setting and we wanted her to be transitioned into it before bringing home a baby.

Blaire, February 2017

From the time we toured her new “school”, to us notifying her current daycare that we’d be moving her was about four weeks. We went through the handbook for her new daycare, page by page. We asked our friends 50 questions about their experiences there. I asked the director of the daycare 100 questions. We really needed to be sure we were doing the right thing. I’m not lying when I say I didn’t sleep those four weeks.

I had so much anxiety and guilt around knowing how upset she would be. And knowing how hard it would be on Blaire to go from seeing someone 5x/week to never seeing them. Not only her actual daycare provider, but her two friends and their two siblings. When we made the final decision to move her, I made Jason go with me to pick up her one Friday night so he could break the news to her current daycare. 

All of my anxiety and guilt lead me to lots of research around the etiquette of switching daycares. I finally found the “two week rule” that said you should give a two week notice, per child. We actually gave three weeks notice, with four weeks of pay, since I ended up being able to take the time off between Christmas and New Years. 

Between her last day at her in-home daycare and the first day at her new “school,” she and I had 11 days at home together. So the combination of getting to stay home with mom and then having to go somewhere unfamiliar made for a tough week. She started on a Tuesday and she was actually SO excited that day. She kissed me goodbye, told me she loved me and ran off with one of the teachers to play in the play kitchen. I was so proud of her, I cried!

But the rest of the week she would ask to go to her old daycare or to stay home with mom, which was really, really hard to say no to. Then she’d cling to me at dropoff, which resulted in me leaving her there crying each morning… which resulted in me crying in my car… which resulted in me texting Jason, asking him to call the daycare after 15 mins to make sure she had calmed down before I could get myself together enough to head into work. Luckily, they’d send pictures of her about 30 minutes after I left, having a snack or playing with her friends — not the least bit upset or traumatized, which made me feel better. But then, I’d get there to pick her up at the end of the day and she’d run to me crying. I could see how relieved she was that I had come back for her, just like I said I would. #allthemomguilt

So, learning from the mistakes we made, I have put together this list to help you do a better job at transitioning your little one. 

Blaire, February 2017
Blaire, February 2017

  1. Let them take along an item they find comforting.
    For Blaire, she took her blanket and binky every day, from the beginning. But after the first week, I realized letting her take a stuffed animal from home was a great distraction. The first morning Blaire brought Marshall (from Paw Patrol) and her favorite teacher suggested they build a dog house for him. She was still a little hesitant to let me leave, but she was also so intrigued at going to build the dog house that she let her teacher carry her away without any crying. Marshall went along the next few mornings, and each morning, her favorite teacher would meet us at Blaire’s cubby and ask her what she wanted to build for her animal that day. (God, bless her. Seriously.) After a few days, Blaire took Clover (from Sofia the First) and insisted they build him a castle. Thankfully her teacher was up for the challenge! 
  2. Send a family picture for their cubby.
    After Blaire’s first week there, they asked me to bring in a family photo for their “Family Tree” wall. And coincidentally, the very next day, one of my followers on Instagram suggested sending along some pictures of us for her cubby, so that she could look at them when she missed us. She was very proud to take in her picture to show it off to her friends. It hangs on the wall and she loves to look at it throughout her school day.
  3. Plan something each evening and talk about it before daycare.
    For the first few weeks, on our drive each morning we would talk about what we were going to do that night. Whether it was swim lessons, Chick Fil A or just a trip to Target, it gave her something to look forward to throughout her day. Her teachers said she’d talk about it all day and the second I walked through the door to get her she’d say “Mom! Let’s go to Target!”
  4. Stick to a routine.
    I had read that staying with your child for an hour or so during their first few days was helpful for a transition, but our daycare advised against it. I’m so glad they did! Even the mornings that I found myself there for more than 20 mins were much harder on Blaire than had I just left. She kept thinking that if she whined a little bit more then I’d stay longer. I found that sticking the a consistent routine is key. For us, we walk into her classroom where I help her take off her coat and she hangs it up. For the first month or so, her favorite teacher would greet us at the door and take Blaire, her stuffed animal and her blanket to go play. But now she is happy enough to be there that she runs to her teacher as soon as her coat is off!

So what I’m here to tell you is, it may be rough, but you’re doing the right thing. As long as you know you’re making the transition for the right reasons, everything else will work itself out. Even when you’re crying in your car, or having to be the “mean mommy” who is taking their child to the place they don’t want to go… it will get better. 

Tips for Transitioning Your Toddler to a New Daycare

  • Reply
    TamaraG
    February 21, 2017 at 11:57 pm

    A comfort item can really make a huge difference. Way to go in helping make the transition go as smoothly as possible.

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    sally
    February 22, 2017 at 3:00 am

    AWWW! Poor Blair and poor you! Thank you for these tips– I stay home with A but I feel like I’ll need these tips when we send her to school. Letting them go is so hard even though its so necessary and good for them.

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    Ashley Peavey
    February 22, 2017 at 11:08 am

    So cute! Thanks for the tips!

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The mom guilt.
How long it would take to leave the house.
The sleepless nights.
Breastfeeding.
Losing myself in motherhood — feeling like I had to be with Blaire 24/7.
Adding Ben and now Sloane to our crew has been so much easier for me. It’s like they just fall in line with the crazy. 🤪 And I think being so much more confident in myself as a mom doesn’t hurt either. 💁🏼‍♀️ #motherhoodishard
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