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  • just a baby... in a diaper bag. 🤪 #happilytrista #fawndesign #sollybaby
  • cheers to the end of a long weekend that left every room of our house messy, the laundry over-flowing and lots of dishes in the sink. everyone is healthy-ish and I am just so happy and thankful. ❤️ and also hoping I can get some things back in order today. 🤪 #happilytrista
  • there are so many amazing moments as a mom, but my all time favorite has to be my little babies scanning the room, their faces lighting up as soon as they see me. you’re all they need. you’re their world. and it’s just the greatest feeling. ✨ #happilytrista #3monthsold #15weeksold
  • oh these sweet sisters. 🥰 this made Blaire’s day yesterday. she was so excited to wear Sloane and gosh it made my whole life. ❤️ #happilytrista #babywearing #wearallthebabies
  • I love that I can see how much they look alike in this picture. those cute little profiles. 🥰 too bad this little guy woke up with a tummy bug today, soooo back to the pediatrician for us tomorrow. that makes 5 visits in the past two weeks. thanks, 2020. 😷 are your kiddos fighting off these nasty germs or are they keeping you cooped up in the house like mine? #happilytrista #messymotherhood #honestmotherhood #motherhoodintheraw
  • when you’re feeling down on yourself ✨ #happilytrista #inspiration #goodvibes
  • I wore makeup and did my hair the other day. may as well document it. 🥳 I am going to share a few things about me, because I’m usually always sharing about my kids.
1. I am so awkward in person that I often pretend not to see someone I know. I hate small talk and I just always say something weird. I also always leave the weirdest, most awkward voicemails. 🤷🏼‍♀️
2. I lived in Illinois my whole life, until I moved to Arizona for college (University of Arizona!). After graduation I moved back in with my parents, where I lived until the day I married Jason... and probably technically until we got back from our honeymoon a week later.
3. My favorite thing to do for myself is seeing my chiropractor for an adjustment, followed up by a massage. Relaxing AND covered by insurance. 🤣
4. I have suffered from generalized anxiety disorder for as long as I can remember. But only after Ben was born did I finally speak to a professional about it. Treating it has made my life so much better.
5. I am allergic to green foods. Green apples, grapes, pickles, etc. But not in a life threatening way. Just in a “one side of my face turns red” way. Like you could draw a line down the middle of my face. It’s so strange.
Okay, I’m awkward and strange and whatever. Share something about yourself below. 🤞🏻 #happilytrista
  • shared a similar picture of Ben in my stories yesterday and just had to document here too. his love for Toy Story is the cutest thing... right down to his slippers. Last night Jason and I were saying how much we’d love to see his reaction to meeting the characters in real life... why is WDW so far away?! what characters are your little ones in to? #happilytrista
  • first time in the big bathtub. ✨ #happilytrista #tubbytoddfirstbath
  • ...my days this past week. ear infections, pink eye, runny noses, coughs and congestion... 😶 LYSOL WIPING EVERYTHING when I’m not holding this baby. 😬 #happilytrista
  • If you've never thought of giving your baby a #probiotic you're not alone. @HappilyTrista didn't start using probiotics until Baby #2 came alone, but the difference she's noticed is enough to make her a believer! #repost ・・・
#evivopartner With all of the hard work that goes into breastfeeding, I want to make sure Sloane is digesting all of the amazing proteins found in breastmilk. Today, I’m sharing a blog post talking about the benefits of using @evivohealth infant probiotic- the first six months of a baby’s life is the best time to use one because they’re developing their metabolism and immune system.  #MyEvivoStory #EvivoXL2 #happilytrista
December 13, 2016

7 Things Working Moms and SAHMs Have in Common

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7 Things All Moms Have in Common

I recently read an article with a list of things SAHMs want working moms to know. And every, single item on that list was something that also applies to me (not a SAHM). I am bombarded with pieces on Facebook, almost daily, of the differences between working moms and SAHMs. But when you really think about it, us moms aren’t all that different.

  1. It’s hard. 
    Nothing worth having or doing is ever easy, right? (See: Motherhood) Whether you’re home caring for your kiddos all day, or you’re rushing out the door bright and early to get to work on time… it’s hard. Sure, some days are easier than others, but at the end of the day, being a mom is hard. Whether your morning is chaos because you have to get to work, or it’s chaos because it’s only 7:30AM and your kids are already going stir crazy… IT’S HARD.
  2. We’re doing what’s best for our family.
    Everyone has a different financial situation. Whether you’re a working mom or a SAHM, you have chosen to do what’s best for your family. You might be happy to stick to a budget to make one income work, or maybe you have a job that covers the cost of daycare, while also contributing extra income to your household. Maybe you work because you love what you do, or maybe you were counting the minutes until you could leave your job to stay home with your kiddos full time. No matter what you’ve chosen, you’re doing what’s best for you and for your family. And is there really anything better than that?
  3. We put our children first.
    Sending your baby to daycare doesn’t mean you don’t love them/care about them/miss them all day long. And staying home with your kids doesn’t mean you’re sheltering them from everything/kicking back on the couch all day/throwing Pinterest-worthy play dates errrday. As I said in no. 2, we’re all doing what’s best for our family. Whatever we’ve chosen as our career path, we are putting our children first. I’m a working mom and I love Blaire’s daycare. Do I miss her all day? Definitely. Do I appreciate that she has her own friends and has lots of experiences away from me every day? Yes! But there’s something to be said for being there to witness all of your child’s firsts and it has to be pretty awesome to always been the one who is always there to wipe away their tears.
  4. We need “me” time.
    Being a mom is exhausting. SAHMs are counting down the hours until their hubbys get home to lend a helping hand. Working moms are counting down the minutes until they can leave work to get their kiddos from daycare/school. Sure, working moms get out of the house on week days. But, for most people, being at work isn’t necessarily a giant social hour. And while SAHMs might get out the house to the park or to play dates, most moms need more “me” time with their mom friends. Whether it’s dinner, drinks, pedicures or just time away by yourself, all moms need that “me” time to unwind. So go ahead and book that massage for Saturday morning… your hubby can handle the kiddos. 
  5. Mom guilt.
    All moms experience mom guilt at one point or another. Mine always happens when I want “me” time. We all lose our temper. Whether it’s because you had to listen to Minions on repeat for five hours or because you had a rough day at work and your kid threw a 15-minute-long tantrum in the car on the drive home from daycare. We all lose our cool and then regret it later. My mom guilt usually kicks in once I’ve tucked Blaire into bed for the night. I want to sit in her room and apologize to her over and over and over again. All we can do is drink some wine (or coffee), text our mom friends about it and make tomorrow a better day.
  6. We’re constantly under pressure. So. Much. Pressure.
    If you’re a SAHM, you might feel pressure to have a spotless home with a fancy, home-cooked dinner on the table every night. If you’re a working mom, you might feel pressure to spend all of your time outside of work with your kiddo. (See #5 and #6.) We’re all doing our best. We all have things we find relaxing and maybe that’s cooking or cleaning, but maybe it’s reading or writing. And this is why you need “me” time.
  7. The grass is always greener on the other side.
    Every morning I’d rather snuggle in bed with Blaire until she drags me out of bed vs. jumping out of bed after my alarm for work goes off. But I also love my kidless, workday lunch dates with my coworkers/friends. I love the financial security of our family’s second paycheck and knowing I’m investing in my own retirement, but that doesn’t mean I don’t think about whether or not Blaire will someday wonder why she spent so much time at daycare. (#momguilt) But, in the end, we’re all doing what works best for our family.

Motherhood is so rewarding, but so, so hard. Whether you’re a mom who works outside the home, a mom who works from home or a mom who stays at home… you’re a mom. We can all be friends. We can all empathize with each other… because we’re all fighting the same battles… we’re all drinking the same wine after the kiddo’s bedtime. And we all know wine is better with a friend. ;)

7 Things All Moms Have in Common
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    shaniswalter
    December 13, 2016 at 9:40 pm

    Perfectly put Trista!!!!

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    Daily Delivered
    December 13, 2016 at 10:45 pm

    This is so good mama! As a SAHWM I can always relate to all the posts, but you are so right in that we all have these things in common! I don’t know how the full-time working Mama’s outside of the home, do it though!

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    Fatima
    December 14, 2016 at 10:43 am

    Amazingly stated girl!!!

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    Janette Shearer
    December 14, 2016 at 11:48 am

    I’ve been on both sides and neither one is easy goodness. Very well said!!

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    Ashley Solberg
    December 16, 2016 at 10:25 pm

    Yes, yes, and yes again! Love this!

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    Nicole Banuelos
    December 17, 2016 at 9:43 am

    YESSSS… I’ve experienced both sides between my 3 children and I can attest that this is absolutely true. Every single word. Great post mama!

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    Jacki
    December 29, 2016 at 12:30 pm

    Yes! I love this comparison! We are all doing what we have to do for our families.

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    Linh Nguyen
    December 30, 2016 at 11:28 am

    Just love this post so much! I can relate to all of this and man – the mom guilt is never ending with me! I’ve learned that taking some “me” time is so important for my well being and sanity.

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    Leah
    June 2, 2017 at 12:24 pm

    THIS. you summarized everything beautifully. I couldn’t agree more. Especially having seen both sides of the spectrum.

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The mom guilt.
How long it would take to leave the house.
The sleepless nights.
Breastfeeding.
Losing myself in motherhood — feeling like I had to be with Blaire 24/7.
Adding Ben and now Sloane to our crew has been so much easier for me. It’s like they just fall in line with the crazy. 🤪 And I think being so much more confident in myself as a mom doesn’t hurt either. 💁🏼‍♀️ #motherhoodishard
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  • another day, another doctors appointment for someone in our crew. today it’s Ben. he was up overnight saying his ear hurt — a double ear infection for him. luckily the kid loves taking medicine and hasn’t let his ears get him down! as long as he’s up moving around they’re fine, but the second he lays down... 😭😭😭. hoping our poor buddy is feeling better tomorrow. do you feel like you need a frequent flier card for your pediatrician? just me? okay. #blaireandben #itsfinewerefine
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  • Last night was our first night in the new house. 👏🏻 We still have lots of stuff to bring from the old house and then lots of cleaning over there before the final walk through and closing next Monday. Then we can focus on getting this house unpacked and organized. But first, I would like a nap. 😴 #blaireandben #happilytristahome
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