• these first few smiles are literally the best thing ever. when you realize how happy you make a tiny person. when you see their face light up because they love you so much. then you fast forward 2.5 years and they’re demanding brownies and cheetos for lunch. 😬😬😬 #sixweeksold #happilytrista
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  • 6 weeks of this angel girl ✨
She is still waking up once over night most nights. She just started smiling at us these past few days. She loves tummy time but rolls herself over all of the time so we have to roll her back. She loves to be worn and snuggled. And we have to restrain her brother from kissing her 193739 times per day. 🤪 #happilytrista #newborn #sixweeksold #fourthtrimester
  • We are currently paying the price for last week’s easy bedtimes. I’m trying to get Ben to sleep in his own room. So you can guess how happy he is about that. His yelling has Blaire awake still, she’s been out of her room about 25 times. And Sloane is passed out on the couch. At least someone is asleep. They’re lucky they’re adorable because holy moly I’m tired and just want to veg out on the couch. #gotheftosleep #blairebenandsloane #happilytrista
  • Yesterday was almost 60° and today it “feels like” 21°. We had a handful of fall days and it’s not fair because I’m not ready to skip right to winter. There’s nothing better to get us all out of the house than a walk, especially because wearing Sloane puts her right to sleep. Anywho, trying to squeeze in a nap before we get Blaire from school because once we get home it’ll be a mad dash for me to shower and get everyone ready for Blaire’s first kindergarten parent/teacher conference. AND it’s book fair at her school. Who still gets excited for the book fair? 🤭🙋🏼‍♀️ #happilytrista
  • someone changed out of their pajamas today. it wasn’t me.
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  • daylight savings vibes... casually pouring coffee in my eyes today. what time were your kiddos awake? 
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  • Sorry if this made you yawn. 🤭 I just love that Sloane feels the sleep dust when I’m wearing her, just like Benny did! 💕 Hope you’re having a weekend as great as this girl. She is one month old today! Still waking just at 1:30am most nights to eat... occasionally around 5am, too. When she’s awake she likes to look at lights and stare at mama. Whenever she does tummy time she rolls right over to her back. 🥰 #happilytrista
  • Tried some Pinterest-y nail art while the two older kids were at school this morning... and I’m ready to remove and do something a little less crazy when they’re all in bed tonight. 🤪 Real wild Friday night plans, am I right?
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  • Sloane’s first Halloween... the one where it snowed 3 inches and was 20° outside. Woody and Jessie lasted about 30 mins trick-or-treating, then they wanted to head home to hand out candy. What was the weather like where you live? And how many pieces of candy do people give out where you trick-or-treat? Here, it’s a tie between “choose two pieces” and “grab a handful.” #blairebenandsloane #halloween #halloween2019 #happilytrista
  • ...when your mom takes too long in @target. Realized when we got out to the car that his binky was lost somewhere in the store. 20 mins into bedtime tonight I FINALLY found one in a diaper bag. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 #tristalovestarget #happilytrista #terribletwos
August 4, 2016

What to Expect During Your C Section


What to Expect During Your C Section

Blaire was a sweet little frank breech baby, which means she was butt down, with her head, hands and feet all up in my rib cage. …This resulted in a scheduled C Section for me. I had several friends who had C Sections, and I did tons of research, so I felt really comfortable with what I should expect from my C Section. Well… Some things I was right about some things and wrong about others. 

1. You will probably be freezing before your surgery.
When you arrive for your surgery, they will start your IV and start pumping you full of fluids. The fluids are cold, which makes you cold. But, the good news is, they will probably cover you with warmed towels. Which are amazing and will warm you right up. Seriously! 

2. Your surgical paperwork might say no makeup or nail polish.
Mind did. And I didn’t read it until the night before so I had no time to clarify with my doctor. Well, after the surgery I clarified with my nurse. She explained by no makeup, they mean no lip color. They need to be able to see the color of your lips to ensure your circulation is okay after surgery. Same thing for the reason they want you to have bare nails. But you’re free to wear any makeup that doesn’t cover the color of your lips.

3. Your husband might not be allowed back with you while you get your spinal.
Different hospitals have different procedures. It just so happens that our hospital doesn’t allow anyone in the operating room during your spinal, except for doctors and nurses. Again, I was really lucky to have a great nurse. She was the one who started my IV and monitored all of my vitals before surgery. 

4. Curling into a ball for your spinal block is no easy feat.
Seriously. They wheeled my into the operating room and then helped me climb onto the operating table. Then they had a stool for me to put my legs on and I had to curl into a ball to round my spine. Being giant and pregnant, this is no easy feat. But, by this point I was willing to do anything to meet my baby girl. Even if they had to try 20 times to get that darn spinal in. 

5. Your arms will be “tied down.”
The nurse explained ahead of time that it’s for safety. Your arms aren’t numbed by the spinal block, so they don’t want you to start grabbing at things if you start to get nervous or freak out. This was honestly one of the things that freaked me out the most. But it wasn’t so bad! I had a paper blanket over me, from one hand, across my chest, to the other. And they actually pumped warm air through it to keep me warm (since I was so cold from all of the fluids). My arms were “tied” to the bed with little paper ties on the paper blanket. It was no where near as freaky as I thought it would be. 

6. You’ll probably feel some pressure.
And by some pressure, I mean I felt my lungs move back into place, and immediately took a long, deep breath! Finally!! It was AMAZING. I honestly did not feel much tugging or pulling. I didn’t even know they had started the surgery until they said they already had her halfway out. 

7. You might not get to hold your baby in the operating room. 
Since your arms are “tied down” and they are still finishing your surgery, they will most likely wrap your baby in a blanket or towel to let you see them. Then they will take them to your room for their first bath and to get their weight, length and other vitals. I have seen stories about hospitals across the country offering “family first” or a “gentle” caesarean which offers skin-to-skin in the operating room. I’m hoping this becomes common practice at all hospitals very, very soon. 

8. Dad might leave the room with your baby for his/her first bath and vitals.
This seemed so scary. Going into the surgery I was so, so nervous for Jason to leave me alone in the operating room. But my doctors and nurses were so great at constantly talking about something else and asking me questions to keep my mind off of what was happening to my body. They were the best! They said it would probably be about 15 minutes for them to finish up the surgery once she out, but it actually seemed to go by way faster than I ever imagined. I was anxious to hold my baby, but it was all so surreal that I kind of couldn’t believe I now had a baby out in this world. 

9. You might get a realllllly itchy nose.
Once the baby is out, they may begin morphine via your IV, as your spinal will begin to wear off. And morphine MIGHT make your nose extremely itchy. Don’t itch it! You will have a giant, red nose. But guess what? I actually knew to expect this before hand and still couldn’t help myself. My nose was just so itchy! This, along with the fact that I thought I couldn’t wear any makeup, (PLUS that hair cap you have to wear) I look like a real beauty in my post labor pics. ;)

10. Your fundal massage might not be as terrible as someone who had a natural labor.
They can typically remove more through your incision, and you’re still very numb for the majority of your nurse’s visits when she will perform your fundal massages. For some of my friends who have had medication free deliveries, they said the fundal massage was worse than the delivery itself. So, this is a real score for the C Section mamas!

Honestly, my C Section was not a terrible experience. Recovery? It’s the terrible part. It’s hard. But it goes without saying that it’s so, so worth it. While everyone’s experience is different — this experience is mine. I was lucky to have a schedule C Section. It helped me to feel more prepared and comfortable with the surgery and I am so lucky it was such a good experience. I hope your experience is the best it can be! A C Section is major surgery, so please take it easy on yourself. And don’t forget to give your body some grace. It delivered a baby, whether it did it through labor and delivery, or a C Section, doesn’t matter. xo

Have you had a C Section? Which of these things did you experience? I’d love to know in a comment below.

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    May 17, 2017 at 2:44 am

    My husband was allowed in the room for the epidural and the operating room. I can say guess presence there made everything so much better! I actually didn’t get to see my baby until about an hour after I had surgery because the doctor was making sure he didn’t cute anything. I’ve never experienced labor but I actually really loved the c section! It was quick and easy and I think my body healed a lot faster because I had it. I was back at work 2 weeks after my surgery! It helps i had a good doctor! Something things i wish i never was how numb you are and how you literally can’t move, the doctors and the nurses have to pick you up or roll you into different beds. Get the catheter after the epidural, it makes life so much easier. Also, the IV they give makes you very nauseas!

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The sleepless nights.
Losing myself in motherhood — feeling like I had to be with Blaire 24/7.
Adding Ben and now Sloane to our crew has been so much easier for me. It’s like they just fall in line with the crazy. 🤪 And I think being so much more confident in myself as a mom doesn’t hurt either. 💁🏼‍♀️ #motherhoodishard
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